Resistance and Rationalization
Rationalization is Resistance’s right-hand man. Its job is to keep us from feeling the shame we would feel if we truly faced what cowards we are for not doing our work.
Don’t knock rationalization. where would we be without it? I don’t know anyone who can get through the day without two or three juicy rationalizations. They’re more important than sex.
Aw, come on! Nothing’s more important than sex.
Oh yeah? Have you ever gone a week without a rationalization?
-Jeff Goldblum & Tom Berenger in Lawrence Kasdan’s The Big Chill
But rationalization has its own sidekick. It’s that part of our psyche that actually believes what rationalization tells us.
It’s one thing to lie to ourselves. It’s another thing to believe it.
The above can be found in “the WAR of ART” by Steven Pressfield pgs 53-54
EXAMPLE OF ME USING RATIONALIZATION AS A FORM OF RESISTANCE IN MY LIFE:
“Oh, well, he said he was a doctor, but maybe he doesn’t want to feel like I am only dating him for that”
“DUDE! The fact of the matter is: he took an oath as a Doctor…and if he doesn’t insist on checking out my gashed-open big toe that I told him about…but instead decides to whine to me about a sore muscle to make it all about him…if he does that now so early in our courting…how the heck can I put faith and trust in him to provide for and protect me? ESPECIALLY since he knows that I almost did NOT date him because he was a doctor”
And it is a form of resistance because spending time with a man who is not totally into me and interested in loving me is preventing me from spending time doing things that add to my life and my goals and will lead me closer to someone who really and truly does value and cherish me…a man I can respect and feel good about standing by his side through the good times and the not so good times…because I know he will be there for me just the same. Period.