“WE”

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“…our love of self is also the “divine” love: our search for the ultimate meaning, for our souls, for the revelation of God.  This understanding returns us to the words of Clement of Alexandria:

Therefore, as it seems, it is the greatest of all disciplines to know oneself; for when a man knows himself, he knows God.

The Fault in romantic love is not that we love ourselves, but that we love ourselves wrongly.  By trying to revere the unconscious through our romantic projections on other people, we miss the reality hidden in those projections:  We don’t see that it is our own selves we are searching for.

The task of salvaging love from the swamps of romance begins with a shift of vision toward the inside; we have to wake up to the inner world; we have to learn how to live the “love of self” as an inner experience.  But then it is time to redirect our gaze outward again, toward physical people and the relationships we make with them-we must learn the principles of the “human” love.

Many years ago a wise friend gave me a name for human love.  She called it “stirring-the-oatmeal” love.  She was right: Within this phrase, if we will humble ourselves enough to look, is the very essence of what human love is, and it shows us the principal differences between human love and romance.

Stirring oatmeal is a humble act-not exciting or thrilling.  But it symbolizes a relatedness that brings love down to earth.  It represents a willingness to share ordinary human life, to find meaning in the simple, unromantic tasks: earning a living, living within a budget, putting out the garbage, feeding the baby in the middle of the night.  To “stir the oatmeal” means to find the relatedness, the value, even the beauty, in simple and ordinary things,  not to eternally demand a cosmic drama, an entertainment, or an extraordinary intensity in enverything.  Like the rice hulling of the Zen monks, the spinning wheel of Ghandi, the tent making of Saint Paul, it represents the discovery of the sacred in the midst of the humble and ordinary.

Jung once said that feeling is a matter of the small…”

(I will finish quoting this another day…see picture for my “lazy-dude” citation)

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